So I found myself at a wedding dinner last Saturday. And as far as weddings go, it was pretty awesome. Lots of food, drink and girls in pretty dresses.
In fact, it was so awesome, the whole event ran like one big party. The emcee made it feel like it was a rock concert; there was a live band, dancing and lots of videos for everybody to feel warm and fuzzy all over for the newlyweds.
The warm and fuzzy even managed to make yours truly (who will admit to being a hard-ass with regards to everything matrimonial) go "Awww~~...". Notice the pink font colour?
Next time I go to a wedding I will make sure I watch all 4 Die Hard movies beforehand to counteract the warmfuzzy barrage, thus ensuring I leave with my self-concept intact.
Now marriage has always struck me as an archaic notion. It's a social contract induced to ensure the legal, social and economic stability of the parties involved, which is something that isn't necessary in today's world of gender equality and equal opportunity and all that jazz.
But then I suppose that because there isn't a need for it, that when two people actually decide to commit like that, it means a whole lot more, no?
I just read that last line I wrote. I guess I still have the fuzzywuzzies from the wedding. Expect a retraction or at least a post on why being single is awesome in the next few days.
In the meantime though, I'll dedicate this one to all the lovers out there.
Jere
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
One for The Lovers.
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6 comments:
"Notice the pink font colour?"...LOL.
I always thought that those who 'anti-marriage' are commitmentphobic people and have serious trust issues with people (they could not trust someone enought to share their life with).
What say you, eh Jeremy? Anyhow, i'm single and enjoying it ;).
Next post - Top 10 reasons why being single is awesome.
I like weddings. I like the food. and I like the drinks =)
I've never really been sold on the idea of marriage. Sure I go to weddings, sure I ooh and aww and gush with the rest of them, sure I think of flowers and rainbows and unicorns and happy house-with-white-picket-fence endings.
And sure I cringe and squirm in my seat (I can't help it, really).
The way I see it, if two people want to be together and stay together, and have a mutual understanding that that is what they want, then that's all there is to it.
This is why (I think) people get married (I clearly have nothing better to do):
a) they want to have kids (legitimately);
b) they don't want their current SO to leave them for someone better (how dare they);
c) it's just time (at least that's what everyone's telling them);
d) they want to make somebody happy or shut somebody up (possible tie-in with (c));
e) they feel that it really is the right thing to do, given how they feel about each other, and see this as a way to celebrate their love (...);
f) they're drunk/high/both (maybe not so much in this country);
g) they need the financial security (money... mmM...)
Bah, what do I know about marriage anyway.
Bubbles: Top 10 reasons why being single is awesome? That's brilliant. I'll do it soon, when I can. Then I'll post it on the blog for good measure =)
Anonymous: I'll have to agree with you on your points. Marriage isn't necessarily for everybody.
I think the most important key point to take into mind when discussing "Marriage: It's Not For Everybody" is that the most important thing about that little piece of paper is the fact that you have a legal authority on/with the other person. So let's say something (knock on wood) were to happen to your partner, there are situations where being a defacto (with kids or not) just doesn't cut it. If you're going to commit to another person minus the legalities anyway, what is a piece of paper with your signature on it if it means peace of mind when it comes to insurance, mortgages, health care, children, etc.
I hear so many people in relationships of 4 years or more who say "We are practically married, so I call her/him my wife/husband. We don't need to REALLY get married!" or "Marriage is just a piece of paper, we don't need it!" and sure it works for some, but like I've mentioned above - if you are truly serious about a person to say you are practically married anyway, and if it's JUST a piece of paper... then why not?
Nobody said marriage had to be tied in with an extravagant wedding. You know me, I didn't even have one and I'm happily married! It doesn't mean you can't still enjoy perusing the menu or that you automatically become some oldie McOld Old! ;)
It's funny you know, I never really thought about what your thoughts on marriage would be - I guess it never occurred to me to put you and marriage in the same context. That being said, maybe I have always known what you would think/have always thought about marriage, eh? *ponders*
I ramble, goodnight.
Joy: Wah. Such a long little comment. But what are my thoughts on marriage, do you think? =P
The point of my post I suppose was to say that marriage isn't a necessary aspect of life today, as opposed to back in the day when social and economic factors were directly related to getting married.
I don't deny the awesomeness that being legally married can accord you. Its legal perks and all that are all very nice, and definitely make life easier, it isn't a necessity nor is it a means to an end like it used to be.
Marriage it seems to me, is the culmination of a relationship (and I don't mean that in a bad way).
So yeah. There's that. Also, you make it seem like I'm never gonna get married. Tsk tsk. =P
Hehe nolah since when did I say that? ;p I just don't think you plan to do so anytime soon for oh say.. the next 10-15 years. Hahaha.
But yea, I agree with you in that regard (RE: your reply to my comment). Personally I don't think people need to get married at all, but like I said - if you plan to do more than just be together, such as buy a house, have kids, etc then it's something that just makes sense. *nods*
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